I realize
that I am on ‘Shoe-Watch’ mode once again.
No, I have
not changed my occupation. I was never in the ‘shoe’ business; nor do I see it
happening in either near or distant future.
Then what am
I talking about?
During the last
few months, I have been out of Delhi many times. Every time I return and every
time I take a Metro to reach office after the gap, I realize that I am
engrossed in ‘Shoe- Watch’.
I know: it
still does not make any sense.
Why do I
watch shoes? Am I obsessed about shoes?
Let me
explain.
When in
Delhi, I take Metro to reach office and for coming back home. Metro is good: it
saves time; it is less crowded; it is clean; it is not very expensive and all
that. The most important part is the first coach of Delhi Metro is reserved for
women. That makes travel less
irritating, much comfortable.
The Metro
line I daily (well almost daily!) use is an underground Metro line. Once I
enter into the Metro station, I am completely disconnected from the sky. As the
Metro is fully AC, the doors and windows are closed – except that the doors
open wide in the station.
So, while
traveling by Metro, I get caught in the limited space. No sky, no trees, no
buildings, only darkness outside. I feel completely uprooted, empty. I need
some activity to fill the vacuum within me. But one cannot do any activity here
except watching. When my eyes wander here and there, they certainly fall on
some woman’s face. It is disgusting to be noticed when I am watching someone
without purpose, without knowledge, without any real interest.
For everyone
it is an awkward moment. There are different responses. Some women smile as
they are involved in the exactly similar act – they too are watching me without
purpose, without knowing, without interest. However, some women feel irritated,
which is natural. It is in a way trespassing their privacy. Some women get
angry. Some women start listening to music, speaking to someone on mobile. Some
talk loudly with their friends, colleagues sitting or standing next to them. Some
women become more conscious; some women ignore; some women stare back as if
challenging me. Some politely open conversation.
Some women
are wise; they look at me and close their eyes without any expression. They treat me as if I do not
exist. I am sure, I too respond in all these different ways in different
situations! Well, that is one of the
best option I too have - to close eyes. I can take a nap if I want. If I don’t
want that, I always have so many moments to remember, to re-live. I have so
many ideas to give more thought to, to plan their expression. I have things to
remember and things to forget.
But somehow I
close eyes only to open. With every announcement (and there are too many) I
open eyes. I close eyes and open them again; I open eyes and close them again.
I cannot relax completely. I don’t like to use earphone for listening music. I
do not know anyone with whom I can go on talking for half an hour on Metro. I
don’t make or receive calls (unless absolutely necessary) when I am amongst
strangers – I like to keep my world to myself. So, closing and opening of eyes
goes on endlessly – again attracting attention.
What do I see
with open eyes? As I said earlier, there is nothing to see outside and I need
to avoid watching faces. So, as a last resort I have developed a habit – I
watch shoes. Generally women around me don’t understand that I am watching
their shoes – because in one glance I can cover a range of shoes.
Let me tell
you, that is an amazing world – the world of shoes! They come in different
sizes, colors, styles, designs; they are made of different materials and have
different personalities. There are sandals, floaters, chappals. There
are some with single strap, some with cross straps, some with double strap and
so on. Each one of them expresses
something – not about itself but about its owner. I look at the shoes without
looking at the face and imagine how this particular woman would be – and
funnily when I look at the woman, my guess about her outward personality is
almost right. It is certainly fun to imagine about a person wearing pink shoes
or zebra stripes or blue bordered red shoes. It is not just imagination but a
combination of logic, experience and imagination. Even the shoe lace speaks
volumes about the person (how tight it is tied, what is its length etc.) – that
is what I have learnt.
The ‘shoe-watch’ is no more an awkward habit
for me; I no more feel guilty about it, nor do I get bored by it. Shoe-Watch is
a topic of entertainment, and silent learning. It is a world without words. The
experience gets synthesized (without words), and makes way for new hypothesis,
observations, and inferences! The cycle continues… the challenges provoke and
keep me awake and connected.
It is amazing
that when we are forced in a certain situation how our mind finds out moments
of happiness and creates its own space within the limited space. The mind
creates its own world even when the walls are limiting the view. Mind has the capacity
to rebuild from what is given, to interpret anew. It has a capacity to find
meaning in apparently meaningless life.
Every time we
fear that there is no alternative, we just need to change our intent and the
whole new world emerges – even when all the external aspects remain the same! The
same ‘shoes’ will not interest us forever, the purpose will of course change
from time to time- but does not matter until we enjoy and grow.
*
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Well, I (confess)admit, I share & enjoy this habit.
ReplyDeleteand Its FUN...!
What a perceptive post ! Loved it.
ReplyDeleteJust wanted to point out something from my experience. Many times, , when one is travelling, say in Mumbai locals, the mind/head, possibly swaying imperceptibly, in resonance with the rhythm of the train, kind of numbs the thinking and makes it more of a pure visual process. You see things, but there isnt much reasoning/speculating happening in the mind. A kind of "idling". This leads me to think that in the technology used in the metro, things are uninterestingly smooth leaving the mind open , as you describe ....is that true ?
Amazing narration of the process 'how our mind finds out moments of happiness and creates its own space within the limited space'
ReplyDeleteWonderful!
donnow why....bit i did enjoy reading it. :)
ReplyDeleteWell, Makk, I suppose men do not have such a variety of shoes ..or do they too have? :-)
ReplyDeleteSurangatai, I am still thinking a lot about technology used by Metro .. I don't think it makes one creative, it actually corners people into a limited space .. It is the trick 'when pushed to wall, innovate' that I use. But I am going to think more about sociological and psychological aspects of space contstraints!
Thanks Preeti.
Mahesh, it seems that something in the process that I elaborated attracted you. Or are you fan of shoes? Just joking :-)
though there is variety too, of course not as much as women's.
ReplyDeletelove the way you have concluded!
ReplyDeleteMakk, :-)
ReplyDeleteThanks Deepakbhai.
shoe watch is fun ! Have done it many times. At other times though, it is just possible to tilt the head and stare at an inanimate ceiling of the lift or train or wherever !
ReplyDeleteSomehow, looking down for a long time doesnt go well with me !
You capture it well !!! :)
Kavi, if you ever start a 'Shoe-Watch' club, I would certainly join :-)
ReplyDeleteI used to do it as a child and sure it was fun! After reading this wonderful post, I think I should get back to it :-)
ReplyDeleteWell, JP, I am thinking of launching Shoe-Watch club :-)
ReplyDeleteYour shoe watch was fantastic. Shoes reflect the personality of the wearer (women).When it comes to men, it would not be that easy.
ReplyDeleteSubramanianjee, is it because men have less variety in shoes that the shoes do not reflect personality? Next time I travel in General compartment, I am going to try 'shoe-watch' and find out!
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